Sex lies and dating in the city
After all, the author is the Evangelical pastor of the largest church in America. The book's strength lies in providing clarity on the idea that love is an action, not an emotion.While presenting I Corinthians 13:4-8, Stanley moves slowly through each of the Apostle Paul's love descriptors careful to paint a clear picture of what love looks like when it is "not easily angered" or "rejoices with truth." By using Scripture—an overall rare occurrence in this book—Stanley creates an easily digestible to-do and not-to-do list with practical, contemporary examples that squash the fairytale "love" narratives inundating our culture. I was disappointed with Stanley's book for a couple reasons, the first being its lack of depth.You will fly to France, have a nice holiday, text your paleontologist baby-daddy telling him you still love him and you will get back together when you return to the country.Reality: You will unlikely live happily ever after.I'm grateful that Stanley tackles other tough issues like sexual purity before marriage and how to explain biblical submission to our friends.But if readers don't have a foundational understanding of the moral implications of the marriage covenant, then the rest of the discussion is pointless.Or your Lie: Your extremely sexy doctor boss will fall in love with you and then propose to you in a lift.Reality: Your slightly receding, overweight boss will give you a stern warning in the lift for being five minutes late to work Reality: You will not waste your very expensive plane ticket.
Reality: It may be passionate and romantic the first time you attempt to have sex, but whether it's successful or not (like Rachel and Jesse) it is both entirely unnecessary and wholly unlikely that you will need to sing 'Like a Virgin' in the process. Reality: You will share your first, long-awaited kiss with a very attractive man somewhere nearer the ground.It may or may not work out; but the main thing is you are unlikely to suffer an untimely death.This is the most troublesome part of Stanley's book.
It fails to lay out clearly the sanctity of marriage and its divine purpose, which has to do with much more than fulfilling our "relational satisfaction quotas." As a pastor, it is disappointing that he avoids Genesis 2, which clearly lays out the purpose of marriage, namely, that it is a covenant relationship between one man, one woman, and God.
One character in particular, Stuart, frequently makes sexist remarks.